Als Blog Pastor Al | 31 Oct 2008
The Meaning of Marriage: Pt. II
More on marriage. The most recent post addressed the issue that marriage is a creation ordinance. It is not established by humans; it is established by God for His glory. Marriage involves a man and a woman but their relationship primarily is neither for them nor about them. It is for and about God. It is to bring to Him the honor and the glory that is due His Name. It is to exalt and magnify the Lord. Marriage is the institution through which the world is to be populated so that the first two humans were commanded by God to be fruitful and multiply. Do you ever wonder how we have either obeyed or disobeyed that one? We control through abortion and contraception how many children we have, don’t we? I have a definite stance on the first since abortion by any biblical definition is the murder of children, but contraception can be considered in a different light. I will let you work that one out in your own heart and home. Marriage is the institution not only for the population of the earth but it is also the institution through which we are called to provide for productive labor. Children are to learn both what work is and how to do it daily and dutifully as a result of being in a family. The ancient rabbis used to teach that a faithful father does three things for his sons: he circumcises his son in accordance with the law, the teaches them how to live out the law of God and he gives them a job to do so as to fulfill the law. It is not just that family that worships together that is critical; it is the family that works together that is critical. So that according to the ordinance of creatiion, marriage/family is brought into being by God into which His people are called and through which His people bring glory to His Name by living as He has called us to live and doing what He is called us to do. Our happiness in marriage, consequently; is tied directly to our holiness in relationship to God. We are only as happy in marriage as His people as our lives are wholly dedicated and devoted to Him. The best book on marriage that is available is among the least read because this is its foundational principle, Sacred Marriage, by Gary Thomas. We in our culture even as Christians want “how to” books on everything from sex to parenting so those books that simply say what is the Scriptural understanding of marriage that God is after His glory through our marriage and sends us struggles to shape us in that direction are not too popular with us, even though they are right; and the others are most often way off center.
Marriage is a creation ordinance. It is also a covenant commitment. As a covenant commitment, marriage emerges out of the covenant commitment of God to His people. God has made an inviolable covenant with HIs people. He has entered into an agreement with His people to save us by His grace and to keep us by His grace. He will never violate that covenant commitment. He will keep it. God says in His Word that even though we may be “faithless” our God is “faithful.” He is faithful to Himself and to His purpose for His people to the exalting and honoring of His great name. Now that marriage is a covenant “cuts” in two directions. First, marriage a covenant is for the covenant people of God. Like this our not there is a different standard for God’s people and for the people of the world. God’s people are after what God wants and wills; the people of the world are after what they want. These desires of these differing people are diametrically opposed to each other. In my marriage as a child of God I want to boey God and His Word in being to my wife the person God has called me to be regardless of whether that makes me happy as happiness is defined by this world. The world’s definition of “happiness” has no place in my dictionary as a man devoted to Jesus. When I seek to obey God in relationship to Anne, then what I receive is the kind of happiness that the world cannot give and the world cannot take away. Do we see that? Do we understand that? And do we understand that as much as there are different conditions for the covenant people of God, there are also different contexts for marriage for the world and for those who belong to God? We have really missed this one. The blessing of the church should be given only to those persons whose profession of faith in Jesus is equalled by the expression of that commitment through active involvement in the church apart from which the church is blessing a pagan union while professing the glory of God. We are inviting God’s judgment on us when we open the doors of the church to bless the union of a man and a woman whose lives do not bless God. Let them go to the courthouse; let the people of God who are His covenant people come to the church house. Otherwise, we do great violence to God’s covenant with His people.  More on this later.






